I just need to know what's going to happen.
You don't get to know what's going to happen.
I don't want them to think I'm a bad person.
You can't control what they think.
I want to have input about this decision for our future.
You don't get input into this decision.
I just need them to accept that this is what I want.
You can't make them accept it.
Learning what we can control and what we can't control is important. Although it seems simple enough on the surface, it's not easy.
Once I figure it out in one situation or one season of life, it sneaks up on me again.
The feeling of frustration is the clue. It's the symptom of a problem.
Whenever that feeling is present, I usually find I'm trying to control something that I can't.
There's good news too!
If I'm trying to control something I can't, there is usually something being missed that I can control. When I discover what I can control, and put my energy there, frustration diminishes.
Hint: I generally find what I can control when I look in the mirror.